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Carl V Phillips, PhD's avatar

You may understate how often the same observations apply in real-world situations. In my work, I have to deal with people saying something is "addictive" or someone is "addicted" all the time, but when pressed they cannot say what they mean by that (other than via a motte-and-bailey retreat to some reasonably concrete other concept like "a tolerance builds up" or "dependence/withdrawal exists" or just "they do it a lot"). This is fairly critical since the word is used as if it were an important observation with substantial implications for the discourse (not unlike in philosophy), but it turns out no one can agree on what it means and those using it cannot say what they mean. At a more everyday level, talk about "freedom" tends to not stand up to a single follow-up question of "freedom to/from what?"

R.K.F.'s avatar

Most of the disagreements I've had in personal relationships have wound up coming down to differences in how we understand words in particular contexts. Sometimes, the actions someone wants you to do (such as getting out of the way of the hospital entrance) is sufficiently clear even if you don't understand *exactly* what they mean by all of their terms (so it would be rude to ask, given the urgency, and given that actionability is what matters), but there's almost never a situation in which answering "what people usually mean by x" would make sense. A slightly more specific utterance such as "what people usually mean by x in y context/region/subculture/discourse" might be more helpful.

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